self – health/spirit/fulfillment

dad – set examples

work – idea was to make money, then do politics.  Presently, I don’t know anymore.  Economics have affected me and my plans.

Alot had to do with not having a clear plan in Australia.  Things fell by the wayside.

I just never cared about getting the credit.  I wanted to contribute and be valued.  I am greatly suspicious that people do not value me enough to give me rewards & recognition.

I guess you need to keep thinking big.  Audacity.  Then take opportunities and apply for moving upward.

Personal thoughts:

I am a thinker.

I feel more like a disrupter and a “not fit in” guy more than a guy who “fits in” and feels comfortable with the status quo.

I’ve always like working with more edgy, leading technologies.

I feel I am an innovator who asks why this way?  How do we do it better?  Why this needs to change.

I like innovating plans, processes, quality designs.

I’m very affected by Adm. Grace Hopper.  She really wanted to solve problems with computers.  Writing a compiler was an intermediate step.

I was very affected by the founder of Kinkos.

We did alot of good engineering in the Air Force.  But there was wastage and I was not “hands on”.

I wanted to make a bigger impact.  Maybe make socially conscious movies.

The plan was to get a masters, get an MBA, get to be a Colonel in the USAFR.

Then the internet took off.

It was a chance to be an entrepreneur.

I took a series of jobs:  I.T., FMCG, Telco, Banking.

I don’t think anything really set me on fire for a long time.

I guess the overall theme is make money from innovation.

I’ve learned the hard way that business is about

1  repetition of processes that yield transactional profits

2  doing something that is “bettering” mankind or advancing mankind

3  Feeding, clothing, and sheltering my family

So what now?

1  Feed, clothe, shelter the family.

2  I’d like to do work near to home, reasonably paid, challenging but that allows me to work on my primary goal at night and on weekends.  My way will be the way of the crime writer who was also a practicing attorney

Actors, directors, NASA flight directors, Presidents all come to the end of their tasks at some point.

There are standards

standard 1 family:  do your kids love you?

standard 2 work:  work as little as possible, but make money

standard 3 play:  do what interests you and makes you feel alive

Paul Orfalea:  founder of Kinko’s takes no credit.

Success “when your kids want to spend time with you as adults”.

Success “be honest with yourself even when it makes you uncomfortable”.

Your main time is in not doing much, but it’s okay to work to just make money.  That is okay.

Thank you lord for this video


“Let me exhort you, examine yourselves

Let each of you discover where your true chance of greatness lies

For the sake of your college and your country, seize this chance

Rejoice in it and let no power or persuasion deter you in your task”.

Objective of working life:  feed, clothe and shelter your family and make as much of an  impact with this precious life of ours as you can.  Work was more ‘family’ in the past.  Today work has been privitised so that employers need to ‘make’ a certain percent of return for shareholders or universities need to be profitable.  The way to do that is pay workers less and ask them to work more.  HR systems managers will tell you that it is about engendering teamwork, reaching high performance, or achieving personal levels of satisfaction – but it’s about dollars of profit per employee.

The steps to achieve your objective

1  inventory your skills

2  search the job market for what is needed in the workforce

3  do not associate your worth with the job you get, but rather at the trueness of the search and marketing campaign you run.

4  Get a job in which you can make the most impact you can make, earn a reasonable paycheck, working with people with similar values, that is reasonably challenging, and meets your hygiene needs of work hours, proximity to home, overall fit, and culture.

You can always try to change the world outside 9 to 5.

If you don’t change the world, you can raise good kids and be true to yourself.

If you have ever had a near miss in an automobile accident, you will understand.  As you did not actually have physical trauma or contact, technically, you are unaffected by the near miss.  But moments after the near miss, you realise the possible consequences and the reaction is to feel sickly, traumatised, breathless.  These are all very real feelings.

If you can control the “near misses”, you might be able to keep energy levels smooth or under control.  Take traumas or possible traumas out of your life.  The kind which you have no control over like the behaviours of another person, gambling results, or random events like dangers incurred at high speeds on public motorways (as opposed to high speeds on a controlled racetrack condition).

It’s nothing profound, the super successful companies have a few things in common…one of those things is “an environment free of the fear of failure” and “an environment where failure is treated as a learning and fast failures are tolerated because it is only through adventurous risks that super successful companies differentiate themselves”.

So if many CEO’s know this, why are organisations full of fear?  Because of middle management.  Middle managers are responsible for allocation of resources and showing success as a profit centre.  It’s a recipe of ambiguity or two facedness.  This two facedness in managers gives employees uncertainty and confused signals.  Also, the bonus system.  If employees want good bonuses then they must be liked.  To be liked they must be supportive, non-troublemakers, quiet, “blend in”.  So speaking up is only encouraged if you are supportive.  Hence a culture of  “yes” persons surrounding the boss results.  Employees are fearful if they disagree with a policy of the middle manager, they will not be liked and not get their bonus.


from a speech by Sherul Sandberg, COO of Facebook at Barnard College, June 2011

about the rat race in the first place? Is it worthwhile? Or are you just buying into someone else’s definition of success? Only you can decide that, and you’ll have to decide it over and over and over. But if you think it’s a rat race, before you drop out, take a deep breath. Maybe you picked the wrong job. Try again. And then try again. Try until you find something that stirs your passion, a job that matters to you and matters to others. It is the ultimate luxury to combine passion and contribution. It’s also a very clear path to happiness.

At Facebook we have a very broad mission. We don’t just want you to post all your pictures of tonight up there and use Facebook to keep in touch, even though we want that, so do a lot of that. We want to connect the whole world. We want to make the whole world more open and more transparent. The one thing I’ve learned working with great entrepreneurs—Mark Zuckerberg at Facebook, Larry Page and Sergey Brin at Google—that if you want to make a difference, you better think big and dream big, right from day one.
We try at Facebook to keep all of our employees thinking big all day. We have these posters in red we put around the walls. One says, “Fortune favors the bold.” Another says, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” That question echoes Barnard alum Anna Quindlen, who said that she majored in unafraid. Don’t let your fears overwhelm your desire. Let the barriers you face—and there will be barriers—be external, not internal. Fortune does favor the bold, and I promise that you will never know what you’re capable of unless you try.

You’re going to walk off this stage today and you’re going to start your adult life. Start out by aiming high. Like everyone here, I have great hopes for the members of this graduating class. I hope you find true meaning, contentment and passion in your life.

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Independence or Self-Mastery – Moving from dependence to independence (i.e. self mastery)

 1: Be Proactive

 Take initiative in life by realizing.  Take responsibility for your choices and the subsequent consequences that follow.

 2: Begin with the End in Mind

 Self-discover and clarify your deeply important character values and life goals. Envision the ideal characteristics for each of your various roles and relationships in life.

 3: Put First Things First

 Plan, prioritize, and execute your week’s tasks based on importance rather than urgency.

  Interdependence (i.e. working with others)

 4: Think Win-Win

 Synopsis: Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships.

 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

 empathetic listening to be genuinely influenced by a person, which compels them to reciprocate

 6: Synergize

 Combine the strengths of people; encouraging meaningful contribution

7: Sharpen the Saw